A Room of One’s Own

Just sailed through Virginia Woolf’s delightful book: A Room of One’s Own with great awe and wonder.

The book originates from a lecture delivered by Virginia Woolf in Cambridge University in 1928. I was spellbound by the broad view and detailing of the impact of poverty as well as chastity on women’s creativity. It is generally acknowledged to have achieved the status of ‘one of the greatest feminist classics of the century’.

But I haven’t seen it that way. I was left amazed by the smooth flow of a great mind exploring a subject with great delicacy and precision. It was a pleasure to see how a trained mind maintained its balance throughout the book, without slipping even once.

She didn’t take sides at all. There was neither any evidence of a reckless dash towards feminism nor any evidence of appeal of righting the injustice inflicted on women by a predominantly man’s world.

In fact, she does just what is least expected. She shows a reasonable way forward for women to free themselves from the shackles of societies to unleash their creativity through their writings without sacrificing their womanhood in the least. Surprisingly, the condition is to have £ 500 a year and a room of one’s own to not only regain their self-esteem but also enrich humanity.

What I liked most was the view that the best writers who have retained their appeal over the years neither took a man’s view nor a woman’s view of the world while expressing reality as they saw it. Such great minds were androgynous.

In addition, such great minds completely avoided the big ‘I’ to infiltrate into their writings. It was as if they dreaded the big ‘I’ like some infectious disease.

The other interesting thing was to see how awareness of one’s own body and its relationship to one’s environment gets reflected through one’s mind in one’s creation.

These are big lessons – very big lessons. It boils down to the fact that creativity is simply a reflection of a state of mind where the ‘creator’ is no longer a prisoner of his own ‘perceptions’ but is happy to stay as a witness – and in some cases not even that. It calls for courage of the rarest kind.

One of the many ways for allowing that state to arrive is to simply watch and enjoy such an unfettered mind effortlessly cut through delusions to expose layers of reality in things and phenomena that happen around us.

If that is one’s intention, I would highly recommend a deep study of this book – just to see how such a liberated mind works – if not for any thing else.

Yet another letter from a friend.

Here is yet another letter from a friend after he read the book Winning Anywhere – the Power of ‘See’:

“Thank you once again for writing a book, preserving your experiences and knowledge for the next generations to come.   You may be surprised that why I am mentioning next generations.

Knowledge at your level is special because, it is an assimilation of experience, knowledge, thoughts, theories, experiments, results and many other factors which form a unique combination.   Your thoughts can be shared, discussed, experimented and  experienced while you are around.  May be I am one of such lucky persons, who can proudly say, you are my guru.

When you are not around it is this book and many more books which you will write to keep the thoughts in the pages and enlighten the next generations.

Awaiting many more gems from you.

with regards,


Dated: 7th April 2014


A letter from a friend

This letter is from a friend of thirty eight years. He wrote this after reading my book —

Winning Anywhere-the Power of “See.”

My Dear Dibu, After a long wait the book was delivered. The wait did me a favour in terms of arousing curiosity as well as an urge to devour the contents at the first sight. But I preferred to go slow and it was worth. I don’t know how to and what to talk about the book-it was so enlightening and refreshing. I have never come across a book which deals with power of mind in such a lucid manner without jargon and preaching. You deserve my first hug on this. The stories from mythology and old teachings used in the narration seamlessly fits into the scheme of thoughts and strengthen the focus and understanding to a great extent.

We as human being are groomed and tutored to see objects separated from the whole scheme of things thus missing the whole for the sake of parts. Its similar to judging a person by his actions on a particular instant without trying to understand the situation in totality which has compelled him to behave in a particular manner. This reminds me of the story about a person in a park sitting unmindful of the noise  created by his two young sons playing around and disturbing others. Irritated by his indifferent attitude, one person who was not able to concentrate on a book he was reading,   complained to the father demanding that he would better control his sons. This was an immediate reaction of anger based on what he saw through the eyes without applying mind. But his reaction changed when he came to know that the young boys have just lost their mother and were returning from the funeral with their father. The anger was replaced by sorrow and deep sympathy and the noise created by the sons no more disturbed him. How was this possible? Its our mind which lets us see the whole. Mind trained with NEMEtics develops the skill to see the whole and the divide between inner and external materialistic world exists no more. This is what our philosophy terms as state of bliss where one remains in pure ‘Ananda’.

To me the book essentially deals with seeing through the mind beyond the normally visible frame captured by the eyes. The book is best described in your own words ‘…there is no divide between our inner world and the external world. The secrets of both worlds can only be revealed through the power of ‘seeing’ or paying attention by a still mind…..the divisions that we create between materialism and spirituality and our inner world and the external  world are all in the mind, which stops us from seeing anything as an indivisible whole.’

The successful application of the principles of NEMETICS not only to an individual but to society and organization, as dealt in your book through examples and personal experience, is an eye opener and will go a long way in shaping the future.
Before I conclude, let me tell you frankly that the book could not fully quench my thirst rather it created in me a renewed urge to know more about each of the elements covered in your book with similar narrations and wonderful stories. Looking forward to more such creations from you……..A big HUG for you and Madhumita and my regards for Mesho and Mashi….  Yours forever-Gautam

Review of the book, ‘Winning Anywhere – the Power of See’ by an Architect

This is a review of my book, ‘Winning Anywhere – the Power of See’ from a young architect.


To be precise, this book has the caliber to boost energy above the threshold level of a person to deeply see something clearly.

Much literature is available to demonstrate a way for a NEME but this book demonstrates a homogeneous way of breaking the ‘thought-mixture’ and then convert it into a fruitful thought, in a way one can feel appropriate.

Abhishek Kumar



I am grateful to all my readers.

Thank you so much.

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Review of the book ‘Winning Anywhere – the Power of See’ by a Content Strategist

This review of my book, ‘Winning Anywhere – the Power of See’ is by Daniel Durrant, a well respected Content Strategist.


Be a more perceptive leader amid complexity

+Dibyendu De guides us to see more clearly, via awareness of our selves, our intentions, and the exchanges we make within the complex adaptive systems of life. We are all learning through interactions and relationships that ‘string’ together in ways that alter the ‘tube-like’ paths we ordinarily traverse.

This book challenges us as readers to connect the dots via serendipity, filling in the gaps with our own wonderment. It contains essential pieces of discussion for those exploring the NEME (notice, engage, mull, exchange). The insights of Dibyendu are masterfully interwoven with his curation of Tagore, Gandhi, Einstein, Guru Nanak and others.

I found that to ‘see’ in the nemetics way is a form of yoga that can break us free of limiting stories. Personally, having participated in dialogues that helped fuel the production of this book, I found it a refreshing reflection on my own personal development.

I thank you Dibyendu for your unique contribution to nemetics and honoring the diversity of human perspectives/intentions that emerge from the wholeness/complexity of life. May many more of us become Maharaja— to win over our selves.


I am grateful to my readers.

Thank you so much.

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